Our profile posted to the Miracles Waiting website on Friday, August 9th This means donor families can now view some information about us and see what we’re looking for in a donor. If they feel like we’d be a good match for them, they may contact us. It’s such a surreal thing to see our ad and photo listed on the site. Multiple times I have found myself on our page, reading our profile. As I’m reading, I often find myself in awe that this is really our story. Although we’re still in the very beginning stages, I’m so proud of where we are in this journey and how far we have come. What first seemed to be a roadblock in our lives is now viewed as an opportunity. It’s an amazing feeling.
As I mentioned in my previous post, we contacted our first donor. Since then, we have also contacted one other donor who we believe could be a good match. We have yet to receive any correspondence from either of them yet. If you know me, you may have picked up on the fact that I am a pretty impatient person. This is mostly due to the fact that I was the only child/grandchild, for 9 years, on my mother’s side of my family, which I was closest with and spent a lot of time with in my younger years. Between an uncle, two aunts, a wonderful set of grandparents, and my own parents I often got whatever I wanted, when I wanted it. I have to admit, I was spoiled. With that said, I am finding it a little difficult to remain patient through this waiting period of being matched. This is a little easier for Aaron as he is one of the most patient people I know. He is being a great support through this time. He keeps reminding me that this is a big decision for the donor families. I have to allow myself to remember that. There’s certainly truth to the saying opposites attract. It helps to have a spouse whose personality and traits complement yours.
There are certain things donors are looking for in a recipient, just as there are things we, recipients, are looking for in a donor. I’m sure that the donor families get an abundance of e-mails regarding the embryos they have chosen to donate. It is estimated that there are currently over 600,000 human embryos frozen in the U.S. Unfortunately, only a small fraction of those embryos are available for adoption. Currently, through Miracles Waiting, there are only 18 donor families looking for the perfect someone to adopt their embryos. This is not a large amount when you see that there are five pages of recipients looking for embryos to adopt. Knowing those statistics it is easy to see that the matching process could take a long time.
So in this time, my patience will be challenged. We just remain hopeful and wait for the perfect match. Much discussion, prayer, and time go into finding the perfect match. These are things I have to continually remind myself as we wait. I trust that God has the perfect children for us and that in time, at the exact perfect time, we will have them in our arms. I know that, I just have to wait for it. : D