I have so much to tell. I don’t know where to begin. I’ve rewritten this post in my head multiple times. I can’t quite possibly reflect on the last nearly 4 months I’ve been MIA in this one post, so I will play catch up with a series of posts. We decided that we weren’t going to write about another failed match so that is why I refrained from sharing any news of our match until it was legally officially.
I will start by sharing that to get to our successful match, we did suffer one more failed match. The family I last blogged about in my Dec. 5th post is not the family we have matched with. I won’t spend too much time on this because we have moved on from it. The meeting went well but they informed us they were currently speaking with another recipient family as well. They wanted to take some time and didn’t see things becoming final for another 6 to 12 months. That was hard for Aaron and I to hear. We felt it would be too emotionally risky to wait potentially a year and possibly not even be the recipients. We decided that while we weren’t saying no to the situation we were going to explore any other options that arose. It simply wasn’t the family that held the embryos the Lord had waiting for us. He had something else in store.
On January 8th 2014 an opportunity did arise. I opened my e-mail to discover a message from a wonderful lady I had spoken with 3 months prior. I will call her M. I met M through Miracles Waiting, the site we listed ourselves on in hopes of being contacted to receive embryos. She was on the page looking for a recipient for her remaining embryos. We spent some time chatting through e-mail and getting to know each other. While M wasn’t our match either, she was placed in our life for a reason. We had stopped communicating for about three months until that day, Jan. 8th. Her e-mail was a very pleasant surprise. She wrote to tell us that she had a friend who had embryos to donate. She thought of us and wondered if we had matched yet. We hadn’t and so she shared her friend’s e-mail for Aaron and I to contact this new potential donor family. We had little information or background on the situation. We knew that the embryos were created using the husband and wife’s genetic material vs. a sperm and/or egg donor. We knew the embryos were of great quality and that the donors had conceived boy/girl twins from the same batch and also that they were open to being known and were okay with future contact from the resulting children. These were all really good things. So Aaron and I prepared an e-mail and sent along a few pictures and a bunch of information about our selves. That e-mail was the beginning of a conversation that has changed our lives. Two months, 2 weeks, and 3 days later here we are, recipients of this wonderful donating families remaining frozen embryos, now our’s. Our snowflake babies.
I can’t explain the feelings that we each felt knowing that these embryos were now officially ours. This is the closest we’ve ever been to becoming parents. No word, no action, nothing could ever express the amount of thanks these beautiful people, who have shared the gift of life with us, deserve. They are angels. We are eternally grateful and love them beyond measure. Also for M, for thinking of us, remembering us, and putting us in touch with her friend. And for you all! We have so many people to be thankful for.
The way this match resulted was completely Gods work. His hands were all over it. He presented this opportunity to us. We did nothing. We wouldn’t have found this match because it was nowhere listed to be found. He showed it to us through M. We began our search for embryos in August of 2013. That’s 7 months of waiting. Some people wait years. We are blessed. Thank you Jesus!