The day we found out we would be receiving these precious embryos. It was a Saturday afternoon when I received a surprise e-mail, one that changed our lives forever. I had been keeping my phone near at all times and would check my e-mail religiously as we were in the very beginning stages of communicating and getting to know this family. I wanted to be readily available for any questions or communication they’d like to have. I had literally just gotten out of the shower when I read this message, one we didn’t expect to read so soon. I will refer to our donating family as T & K, the genetic man being T and the genetic woman, K. You see, T&K were taking some time to get to know some families before they made a decision on who they would donate their remaining embryos to. They expected to spend a few weeks getting to know some families before they felt they would come to a decision. Well, they must have felt just as we did because on Jan 11th, just three days after “meeting” this beautiful family, we received the following message…
“Hey guys. I finally was approved as a member of the miracles waiting website so I spent the afternoon reading through all the ads (talk about overwhelming) and it just confirmed what “T” and I were already sure of and that is that we would love for you to be the recipients of our embryos 🙂 Congratulations!! This is happening : ) We have a ton of videos of the kids from babies till now on YouTube if you want to see more of your future children’s genetic siblings.” This message was altered to respect the privacy of the donating family.
My heart sank. I ran out of the bathroom, crying, to get to Aaron who was in the next room. I shared with him the news as best as I could get it out. I finally just gave him my phone for him to read it himself. 😀 We shared a moment together, laughing, crying, trying to believe this was real. I can’t explain our feelings. I can say that in that moment was the most hope we had felt in a very long time, maybe ever. This is the closest we had ever been to achieving a pregnancy, to becoming parents. We knew there was much work to do before this was official and final but it was a huge milestone made.
In the three days we spent communicating with T&K, we developed such a bond and connection with them. We knew it was our right match and that every past situation didn’t work out because this one was coming! I believe the Lord had this match in store for us all along.
I have so much to tell. I don’t know where to begin. I’ve rewritten this post in my head multiple times. I can’t quite possibly reflect on the last nearly 4 months I’ve been MIA in this one post, so I will play catch up with a series of posts. We decided that we weren’t going to write about another failed match so that is why I refrained from sharing any news of our match until it was legally officially.
I will start by sharing that to get to our successful match, we did suffer one more failed match. The family I last blogged about in my Dec. 5th post is not the family we have matched with. I won’t spend too much time on this because we have moved on from it. The meeting went well but they informed us they were currently speaking with another recipient family as well. They wanted to take some time and didn’t see things becoming final for another 6 to 12 months. That was hard for Aaron and I to hear. We felt it would be too emotionally risky to wait potentially a year and possibly not even be the recipients. We decided that while we weren’t saying no to the situation we were going to explore any other options that arose. It simply wasn’t the family that held the embryos the Lord had waiting for us. He had something else in store.
On January 8th 2014 an opportunity did arise. I opened my e-mail to discover a message from a wonderful lady I had spoken with 3 months prior. I will call her M. I met M through Miracles Waiting, the site we listed ourselves on in hopes of being contacted to receive embryos. She was on the page looking for a recipient for her remaining embryos. We spent some time chatting through e-mail and getting to know each other. While M wasn’t our match either, she was placed in our life for a reason. We had stopped communicating for about three months until that day, Jan. 8th. Her e-mail was a very pleasant surprise. She wrote to tell us that she had a friend who had embryos to donate. She thought of us and wondered if we had matched yet. We hadn’t and so she shared her friend’s e-mail for Aaron and I to contact this new potential donor family. We had little information or background on the situation. We knew that the embryos were created using the husband and wife’s genetic material vs. a sperm and/or egg donor. We knew the embryos were of great quality and that the donors had conceived boy/girl twins from the same batch and also that they were open to being known and were okay with future contact from the resulting children. These were all really good things. So Aaron and I prepared an e-mail and sent along a few pictures and a bunch of information about our selves. That e-mail was the beginning of a conversation that has changed our lives. Two months, 2 weeks, and 3 days later here we are, recipients of this wonderful donating families remaining frozen embryos, now our’s. Our snowflake babies.
I can’t explain the feelings that we each felt knowing that these embryos were now officially ours. This is the closest we’ve ever been to becoming parents. No word, no action, nothing could ever express the amount of thanks these beautiful people, who have shared the gift of life with us, deserve. They are angels. We are eternally grateful and love them beyond measure. Also for M, for thinking of us, remembering us, and putting us in touch with her friend. And for you all! We have so many people to be thankful for.
The way this match resulted was completely Gods work. His hands were all over it. He presented this opportunity to us. We did nothing. We wouldn’t have found this match because it was nowhere listed to be found. He showed it to us through M. We began our search for embryos in August of 2013. That’s 7 months of waiting. Some people wait years. We are blessed. Thank you Jesus!